To act upon our good intention-付出善意

To act upon our good intention

If we do not open our heart, if we thinktoo much of ourselves, if our big ego fills every corner of our mind, leavingno room for others, we will feel isolated as a result. If we set ourselves highabove others, thinking no one would understand us nor could we change others,we will tend to run further and further away from people and feel lonely.

Friend is a relative term. Only when webefriend others can we have friends. When we say “I need a friend”, weshouldn’t think first of what we can obtain from this friend. Instead, we needto give. We need to offer our attention, company, patient listening and a spacein the heart to embrace our friends. When we open our heart to care morepeople, to give more people warmth, we bring sunshine to ourselves too. Themore people we hold in our heart, the richer and warmer we ourselves will feel.

Even when we are alone, we need to keepsome softness in our heart and do a little bit of good everyday. For example,in unpopulated areas, we may spread some grains for birds to feed on. We maypick up a bike blown down in the wind. We may say a few encouraging words tosomeone who is disheartened. The key to the revival of our heart is to act uponour good intentions for others. Let go of our self. Generate our compassion tobenefit others. Loneliness won’t bother those who have in his heart anaspiration, a purpose, and the happiness of all beings.

付出善意

内心没有打开，过多想着自己，“我”太大了，心中没有他人，自然就觉得孤独。心里把自己放得太高太远，觉得别人不理解自己，自己也改变不了别人，慢慢就躲得越来越远，也就会感到孤独。

朋友是相对的，自己是别人的朋友，别人才是自己的朋友。当我们说“我想要一个朋友”的时候，不能只是想自己能得到什么，首先要去付出：付出心力去关怀，付出时间去陪伴，付出“耳朵”去倾听，付出心灵的空间去装着别人。敞开心扉去关心更多人，去温暖更多人，也会给自己的心灵带来阳光。心里想着的人越多，内心就越丰富、温暖。

即使一个人独处，心里也要保留一些柔软，每天都要做一点好事。比如，在僻静处给小鸟洒一点食物，扶起一辆被风吹倒的自行车，对失意的人说一句鼓励的话。付出善意，是内心复苏的钥匙。放下自己、慈悲利他。心有愿力、有归宿，心中有众生，就不会感到孤独。