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while air for guys my name is Nick

voyage I was born in Australia in 1982

moved from Australia to California in

the year 2006 and my life story I'm just

thankful that people has have seen my

life on some sort of level whether it's

just YouTube videos or seeing pictures

of a limbless guys smile you know people

always ask me you know what happened to

you and and how did you overcome what

you've been through the title of the

message that I've been given is

transforming the walls into doors when I

speak corporately the line that I like

to use is changing obstacles into

opportunities now I'm very well aware to

to share with you as well I know that

there are a billion people going hungry

today I know that this year a million

people will commit suicide it's one

every 40 seconds I know today they're

120 million slaves and I've met sex

slaves and I've seen the top of the

pyramid as far as business and met the

billionaires I've met bankers and I've

also met orphans we're all looking for

something we're all looking for hope

hope you can't just have just because

you were born with hope no we're born

with pain we're born and lived through

difficulties and in our life my parents

always taught me that even though we

don't know why I was born this way that

we have a choice I did to be angry for

what we don't have or be thankful for

what we do have the power of that choice

was the first thing that I had to

overcome and decide for myself

especially in the early years of school

a lot of kids would come up to me and

tease me and I have been speaking at

five congresses I've met seven

presidents all around the world my

largest crowd was 110,000 I have 30,000

invitations for me to speak so wherever

I go I talk about

the value of life I talk about

anti-bullying messages for the school

systems and different nations the

greatest thing is love when we feel like

we don't have enough love and we don't

have enough hope we start losing

strength to live for me in my life as a

child I had a big wall I was surrounded

by four walls and a low ceiling of

opportunity I was set free in so many

different ways and especially surviving

from day to day with my parents who

loved me who encouraged me who told me

that I was beautiful the way that I was

and not to worry about what other people

said about me I was actually the first

special-needs child to be integrated

into the mainstream education system in

Australia and I was awarded young

citizen of the Year in 1990 and the

world is a hurting place and the world

needs hope and the world needs love

without hope we feel like why are we

here

well brokenness here's mine today I

still have no arms or legs but

everything's changed everything for me I

was looking for hope and happiness and I

couldn't see it for many years in fact

if this side of the table represents my

hope truth encourages me to become all

that I can be but then we have lies

every day coming in our mind

people who discourage us you know the

people that you have in your life who no

matter how good of a day you're having

they'll bring you down or and no matter

how bad of a day you're having they'll

bring you even lower you know what I'm

talking about

think of the three biggest discourages

in your life they're not your biggest

discourages you are you are it only

takes three seconds for me to tell you

something discouraging but then you may

never forget my words I've met so many

50-year old women and 40 year-old women

who still remember what their father

has told them that they wish they never

heard words are powerful when you hear

those words and then your mind starts

growing with these lies Nick you're not

good enough Nick just give up Nick

you're never gonna get a job you won't

get married you can't even hold your

wife's hand what kind of a father are

you gonna be if you can't even pick up

your kids when they're crying you're

alone I'm sure your parents hug you but

their hugs can't heal you just give up

just give up

just give up just give up just give up

at age eight I thought that I should

commit suicide why I didn't have hope I

thought I didn't have hope today you can

see that I had hope what's the word

believing in something you do not see

faith words can only do so much

hugs can do much more than words but

when hugs can't do anything that's where

faith kicks in for me words and hugs

were not enough but I had no faith so I

tried to give up at age ten tried to

drown myself in six inches of 15

centimeters of water in my home I told

my dad I just wanted to relax but really

I wanted to end my life I had enough

Dustin me a beer okay

the first two times I rolled over I was

trying to work out how much error

holding my lungs before I let it out the

third time in my mind knowing that I

wanted to get out of here because of the

bullying in my life because I was going

to be a burden to my parents and I had

nothing to look forward to I realized at

that moment that if I actually went

through with committing suicide I would

leave a greater burden for my parents

than they already had so there was one

thing less sorry there was one thing

less hopeful or or more burdensome than

having a child without limbs what is it

a child without limbs who gives up so

when I saw in my mind my mom and my dad

and my brother crying at my grave if I

went through with it that one thought

saved me if my parents never told me

that I was beautiful the way that I was

if my parents ever told me that I was

special and that I was loved I wouldn't

be here today so I encourage every

single parent who tries their best to

encourage their teenagers especially in

the West many teenagers put a Do Not

Disturb sign on their door I'm sure you

know the conversations all around the

world between a parent and a teenager

how is school fine why'd you learn

nothing did you do your homework no and

that's the conversation for the day and

when you try tell your children that

they're beautiful

oh of course I'm beautiful I'm your son

I'm your daughter

of course you're gonna say that but

they're right every single human being

has value and my value is not determined

on how I look or what job I have or

where I'm from where I was born how much

money all that stuff is nothing so many

teenagers you know tease each other for

how we look and I tell the teenagers do

you think that I'm cool enough to be

your friend they're like yeah of course

so but I have no arms no legs they said

doesn't matter sit really so it doesn't

matter that I have no arms no legs I

said no it doesn't matter I said then

actually if it doesn't matter then why

do we kill each other with our words if

it actually doesn't matter why do we

look ourselves in the mirror and see

ugly instead of valuable I want to ask

you today what are you looking for if I

gave you a billion dollars would you be

happy if you gave me a billion dollars

I'd be very happy but then if my mom

dies tonight am I happy No

with all the money in the world I'll

never be happy mine cuz money is

something that cannot heal the soul so

many teenagers are looking for love

which love does heal the soul love does

complete the soul but even sex before

marriage I am I was a virgin before I

got married I've got a gorgeous wife

we're pregnant with our first son and I

don't need hands to hold her hand I only

want to hold her heart and you know how

am I gonna hug my kids so many kids they

come up to me it's amazing they put

their hands behind their back and hug me

with their neck and I've realized in

life even the worst parts of my life can

be turned into good and they're even

more special so many teenagers are

looking for love so they're going to go

do this and go do that and have sex

before marriage for me sex out of

marriage is like a $5 Gucci watch

sex within marriage and having sex with

someone who loves you who's committed to

you for the rest of your life going to

be the mother or father of your kids

that's what love is you can talk you can

sleep with as many people as you like

but never know for sure do they love me

love is a lifelong commitment you see

there are choices in life and we're

looking I want to ask you what are you

looking for well if I can just get drunk

why not man I'm only live once well if

that's the way you believe great but for

me I'm a greedy man I don't want to live

for 90 years I want to live for billions

of years and I know that every day my

choices will affect this life other

people's life and my eternal life you've

got to come to the truth of knowing who

you are and why you're here William

Barclay he said the greatest two days in

anyone's life the day you were born and

the day you knew why so ooh you're ugly

now I'm beautiful the way that I am and

if you can't believe that for yourself

so many girls especially stay with the

emotionally abusive boyfriend's because

if I break up with him then who's gonna

want me see we all we all want love

that's why we do what we do sometimes to

get into the crowd I'm gonna swear I'm

gonna be cool that's what this world is

I want to look like her I wanna if I was

taller shorter smarter more popular

whatever you want it's not enough until

you find the truth and wonderfully and

fearfully made there's a greater purpose

for my life I am here for a reason

sure I didn't get a miracle yeah I

believe in a God who can do miracles and

I have a pair of shoes in my closet

why I've seen blind people seeing and

deaf people hearing that's fine if you

don't believe me I got it on camera but

I realized something if God doesn't

change my circumstance he's gonna use my

life to be miracle for someone else when

you don't get a miracle you can still be

a miracle for someone else I'm gonna

close off with this beautiful story I

was in Southern California I have two

organizations I have a nonprofit

organization and I have a for-profit I

probably spoke between years 2007 and

2010 1,000 times 600 flights and I've

spoken to 4.5 million people face to

face in the last 48 hours here in Serbia

we've reached 5 million through media so

we have the heart of people to love

others we want people to love each other

love yourself dream big and never give

up we're all looking for hope aren't we

what are you looking for money drugs sex

alcohol pornography fame fortune never

satisfies it's never enough but I have

come to a peace so check this out when

I'm 24 years old five six years ago I

was in California

and I never met anybody else like me

when I was 10 years old I wish I would

have met somebody like me never did

didn't get that miracle but at 24 in

California saw a little boy with no arms

and no legs 19 months old just like me I

knew who was gonna be bullied I knew who

was gonna go through depression I knew

he would feel alone I knew that he would

get worried if he's ever gonna have a

girlfriend and so on and so I got the

father to bring him up on stage in front

of 2,000 people and everyone was crying

and it was a materialization of when you

don't get a miracle you can be a miracle

for someone else I am NOT a superhero I

go through ups and downs so do you but

take one day at a time and if you

haven't found that piece of knowing who

you are and why you're here and where

you're going when you're not here for me

I want you to know that's how I've

overcome I don't have any walls my book

is called life without limits and what

will be will be I've acted in a short

film 30 Awards I got Best Actor in a

short film I've done my own music video

I've written two books first book 30

languages 800,000 copies I'm 29 and we

know a billion people know who I am not

to bring up my pride on my name or my

status trust me

I'm just like you but I hope you are

inspired to know that if I can dream big

then so can you

the honor walls find your piece and

you'll make your walls doors thank you

so much

you