英文演讲：How To Make More Friends

Whenever Roosevelt expected a visitor, he would stay up late the night before, reading up on whatever subject he knew particularly interested his guests. 

That's because Roosevelt was keenly aware that the Royal Road to a person's heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.

If we spend all of our time trying to impress people and get them to be interested in us, we'll never have many true sincere friends. 

But if instead we go out of our way to do things for others, things that require time, energy unselfishness, if we greet people with sincere enthusiasm, to show them that we're excited to be there with them to talk to them, we'll find much more success in cultivating friendships. 

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

We like people who show interest in us who admire us, and so to make people like us, we must show genuine interest in them. Try as hard as you can to see things from the other person's perspective, one of the fundamental keys to successful human relations is understanding that other people may be completely wrong, but they don't think they are. 

If we ask ourselves how would I feel or reactive if I were in their shoes. If we think that first we'll save ourselves a lot of time and a ton of frustration, because we'll better understand their perspective. 

Success in dealing with people relies on being able to have a clear grasp of that person's viewpoint. Accept that person's viewpoint, try to understand it, determine what you say by what you want to hear if you are in their shoes. 

The next time you're about to ask someone to buy your product or buy your service or contribute to your favorite charity, or to do you a favor, pause first, make a list of the reasons you want them to do it, and a list of reasons that they would want to do it.

When you're writing your email or your website copy or opening up a conversation, only mention the reasons from their list and not one of them from your list.