lesson 50 Admitting guilt

2023-07-19 20:34:5604:10 434

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Giving advice is a lot easier than receiving it. Telling someone that he was wrong is a lot easier than admitting that you made a mistake.
Writing a timeout everyday is not easy but trying to live up to all of my timeout goals and ideas, gosh! It's almost impossible.
I know someone who is great at giving advice but when you point out some area where he can improve he gets defensive. The more you try and tell him about a mistake he made, the more defensive he gets.So for that person I've given up trying. And all of my friends have, too.
I can't give up on my kids though. If my son makes a mistake and I point it out, the first thing that comes from his lips is"No! "It's a blame refusal to admit his mistake. It's never"Yes, daddy, you are right." Or"Okay mummy, sorry. " It's"No, it's not my fault"or"It wasn't me "I do the same things sometimes. Perhaps it's human nature. Perhaps my son gets his habit from me.
No! It couldn't be my fault, could it?
承认错误
给予建议比接受建议更容易。当然告诉别人他是错的比承认自己犯错误更容易。
每天停下来想一想不是件容易的事,但试图用暂停来达到我的目标和想法,唉!这几乎也是不可能的。
我认识一个人,他擅于给别人提建议,但当你指出他可以改进的一些地方时他就变得怀有戒心。而你越是尝试告诉他关于他犯的一个错误,他就越变得有戒心。所以基于这个原因我已经放弃了尝试。我所有的朋友也都是如此。
但我不能放弃我的孩子们。如果我儿子犯了一个过错而且经我指出,他嘴里说出的第一个词就是“不!”。这是一种略带责备的否认。他从来没有说过“是的,爸爸,你是对的。”或“好,妈妈,对不起。”而一直都是“不,这不是我的错。”或者“绝对不是我。
有时我也经常会做同样的事情。也许它是人类的天性。也或许是有其父必有其子的缘故。
不!不可能是我的错,可能吗?