Audio is from Practical Psychology.
So how do you actually practice
self-love
luckily I've compiled a list of a few
things you can actually do to start
practicing self-love number one
mindfulness one of the most loving
things you can do for yourself is
appreciate the present moment if you
don't know what mindfulness it's
directing your attention to the current
thing that you aren't actually doing if
you're doing laundry stop thinking about
when you're going to go to the grocery
store start focusing on actually doing
the laundry if you're hanging out with
friends stop thinking about what you
said ten minutes ago and trying to
figure out if those weird or not instead
actually focus on hanging with your
friends
number two imagine how you might feel if
someone else was feeling the way that
you are so refer to our thought
experiment above take one of your
friends and then put them in the exact
situation that you are in now how would
they feel what they feel down excited
upset and if so what would you do about
it would you help them out or celebrate
with them find a way to cheer them up
do the same behaviors for yourself
number three is to challenge your
negative beliefs a lot of times our
thoughts become belief cycles that then
dictate our behavior to give you an
example of how this might work let's say
you score bad on your very first
skee-ball game which then causes you to
believe that you're not good at
skee-ball which then causes you to never
play skee-ball again and that causes you
to miss out on the great fun of an
addicting carnival game instead look
deep down into why you might have that
belief I mean all in all everyone is bad
at something when they first try right
challenging old beliefs about yourself
can be difficult but it's very helpful
in understanding who you really are and
having a more realistic understanding of
why you are number four think long term
in your behaviors you're not really
loving yourself when you just lay on the
couch and binge Netflix even though you
have goals that you want to achieve this
comes down to also loving your future
self
I suggest try to reward your future self
by putting in the work now however also
don't exhaust your current self by
working too hard keep a good balance of
living for your current self and your
future self while also creating a good
and Noble version of your past to self
number five is to protect yourself let's
say that you love someone like a lot
you're head over heels for them however
let's say that you also know this person
has some bad qualities that they aren't
willing to work out in fact whenever you
call them out on it they get very upset
and irritated this
means that they are not mature enough to
look at their behaviors objectively and
actually want to work on themselves
which means they won't want to work on
the two of you together instead don't
date this person no matter how bad you
want to because you will be protecting
yourself from the damage that they would
be doing if they were with you imagine
if you let your friend date a horrible a
clingy self-righteous politically
ignorant woman who never let you see
your friend again if you were a good
friend you'd call them out on it when
you love yourself you need to call
yourself out on it number six
stop complaining the goal here is to
stop complaining and fix the problem for
example I could complain about me
needing to go to the coffee shop every
morning to get my coffee or I could just
buy a coffee maker and make it at home
whatever you complain you are screaming
I'm a person who doesn't better myself
I just live however life happens and I
put up with it if your friend complained
to you about the clothes that you wear
every day you wouldn't put up with their
complaining so don't put up with your
complaining either number seven eat
healthy and exercise taking care of your
body is taking care of yourself taking
care of yourself is literally loving
yourself it's as simple as that just
going to the gym for ten minutes of
cardio and skipping sugary vending
machine foods is a great start seriously
I wasn't really gonna rants about this
but imagine if you fed your child what
you eat every day they would not be
healthy vending machine pop-tarts carb
loaded drinks greasy burgers and never
letting them get out of the playpen to
run around and have fun love yourself
like you would love your toddler feed
them healthy food so that they can grow
and give them plenty of exercise do the
same for yourself number eight decay
toxic relationships when I finish that
sentence you probably thought of someone
in your life who is toxic but you quote
love them so you keep them in your life
instead love yourself enough to slowly
let them fade away notice I didn't say
confront them and yell at their face the
best course of action is usually just to
let them fade out of your life very
slowly if you live with them try to find
a way to move out and if you work wit
them try to request a different
Department number nine celebrate your
wins even if they're small
we all have wins but rarely do we
celebrate them for example quite a while
ago I hit 1 million subscribers but I
never really celebrated it I was excited
I mean it but I didn't do anything about
it I never held a party I never
even told anyone when your friend does
something exciting you congratulate them
so do the same for yourself go buy some
books go to a theme park get your nails
done treat yourself to a nice dinner
even watch a movie do something that you
enjoy and be a little selfish for a bit
you're rewarding yourself for your
behavior it's okay to do every now and
then imagine if you ran a business and
you never paid your employees if you
don't reward your own wins that is
basically what you're doing number 10
live your life for yourself not anybody
else if you live your life predicated on
what others want you were doing yourself
a big disservice imagine if your friend
was a painter however their parents
wanted them to be in the insurance
business just like they are you saw your
friend painstakingly walk into their
office every day until one day they
almost did the unthinkable
if you loved them you tell them that
they don't have to live a life for their
parents that they could be a painter and
do what they loved well treat yourself
the same way if you want to do something
even if you're scared go ahead and do it
this doesn't mean to not care for others
or to not heed others advice but don't
do something just because it's not
normal or you feel that it's expected of
you number eleven use a three step
process that I've basically kind of
modified from improvement pills video on
self-love number one find someone that
you really like it's best if you love
them number two find out the reason that
you love them what specific personality
trait or behavior is it that makes you
love them
number three incorporate that trait into
your life until that trait becomes your
past and then you have that trait too if
you want to learn more about this
three-step process I just rather you
hear it from rich himself there's a link
in the description or just click the
card at the end in conclusion to love
yourself you need to start treating
yourself like someone that you actually
love lastly I put a lot of thought into
this video and I know that it will help
a ton of people so if you need to
rewatch it go right ahead thank you guys
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