The bright side 不如点一盏灯

The bright side

We should not harbor the thought of excluding others because each person around is related to us closely. To exclude others is to exclude ourselves by robbing ourselves the space of life. In the society,all sorts of problems, misunderstandings, conflicts and obstacles would spring up in our relations with others. It is easy for exclusion and repulsion to breed and then deteriorate into fights. All sorts of problems start from mutual exclusion in people’s mind.

When excluding others, we are the first to taste the bitterness of suffering. No matter it is people we are excluding or things we are shunning away or mind we are repulsing, what we get in return are also what we offer, like force and counter-acting force. We should not be too obsessed with our own opinions even less to take ours as the only correct ones and exclude others’. A lot of conflicts and grudges are bred this way.

Instead, we need to stop taking the opposite side. We need to be inclusive and to purify. Start from opening our heart to tolerate ourselves. We can not change others, but can try to modif yourselves. Rather than repulsing the darkness, we light a lamp to appreciate the beauty of ourselves and of others.

  不如点一盏灯

我们内心不应有排斥他人的想法，因为，周围的人跟自己的生命是息息相关的。排斥别人就是排斥自己，排斥别人，自己就没有生活的空间。社会上，与别人接触时间长了，就会产生种种矛盾、隔阂、问题和障碍，大家就容易互相排斥，再发展下去就是斗争。各种各样的问题，都是人们内心互相排斥所造成的。

排斥他人的时候，自己心中先尝到痛苦的荆棘。以排斥心去面对一切，不管人、事，还是心，得到的也只能是排斥，就像力与反作用力。人不能执著于自己的观点，更不能认为只有自己的观点是正确的，而排斥否定别人的。人与人相处中的很多争执、矛盾都是由此而引发。

要放下对立，要包容, 净化。先包容自己，把心打开，我们改变不了别人，但可以改变自己。与其排斥黑暗，不如点亮一盏灯，多看自己和他人的优点。