看原著的感觉清晰了Speaking in I-statements, not you-statements, owning your own feelings
and finding out about and acknowledging the other person’s feelings are
usually the best ways to deal with the inevitable differences that arise in
families. It will also help your child feel more secure, as it reduces
resentments and promotes understanding. They will also be more likely to
adopt this respectful and emotionally intelligent argument style themselves,
having had it as their example.这个使用“我陈述句”，而不是“你陈述句”
我听闻你始终一人_9d
昨晚因为去打算一起去吃豆花，在路上因为导航选择了超近路走小巷而在小巷中迷路，这时老公就不耐烦的说：干嘛要来这里吃。因为这句话我瞬间不高兴了，我是对美食很热衷的，当初征求过他的同意后决定来吃的，结果后面说出这话，浇灭了我的热情，最终路过店面也不想吃了。今天午睡前刚好听到这节，他也被迫听了，睡醒两人就昨天这事吵了一架，晚上下班他主动示好了
雨尘c 回复 @我听闻你始终一人_9d：
能有这样的作用，真的很感动，这本书真的很好，希望对更多的人有帮助。
海伦love
拆解争论
雨尘c 回复 @海伦love：
冀D云A
雨尘c 回复 @冀D云A：
Katharina_V
约翰尼是二十二岁的学生，正打量着父亲的旧皮衣。他说：“爸， 你都六十岁了，不会再穿这件衣服了吧，可以给我吗？” 他的爸爸基斯是位教师，刚结束一天疲惫的工作回到家。他教的 学生和儿子同龄，他总觉得自己跟不上他们的节奏了，感觉自己老 了。约翰尼刚刚说的话恰好踩到他的雷区，基斯不禁提高音量说：“你 想干吗？我是年纪大了，你就不能等我死了再拿走我的东西吗？”-这个有点差异，国内的家长应该感到很荣幸，孩子居然喜欢自己的衣服并期望拥有
雨尘c 回复 @Katharina_V：
Katharina_V
看原著的感觉清晰了Speaking in I-statements, not you-statements, owning your own feelings and finding out about and acknowledging the other person’s feelings are usually the best ways to deal with the inevitable differences that arise in families. It will also help your child feel more secure, as it reduces resentments and promotes understanding. They will also be more likely to adopt this respectful and emotionally intelligent argument style themselves, having had it as their example.这个使用“我陈述句”，而不是“你陈述句”
雨尘c 回复 @Katharina_V：
真佩服你能读原著啊！
