这不是一首歌，而是一段我和托德的关于探讨爱情的配乐对话，我们在交谈中讨论什么是建立以及维护良好的爱情关系的关键......
专辑名：Find Me Find You: A Story；歌名手：Todd and Jingyu 专辑可在各大音乐平台下载
Talk About Love （探讨爱情）
Jingyu honey, I’ve been thinking about something
静瑜 亲爱的，我一直在思考一些事情
Tell me about it
告诉我你在想什么
We have a great relationship, so I was wondering
我们俩的夫妻关系非常好，所以我在想
What makes a good romantic relationship?
良好的男女爱情关系靠什么来建立？
That’s a really good question
这是一个很好的问题
Well first, doesn’t each person separately need to have their act together?
首先，难道不是每个人分别都需要自食其力吗？
Must be, I think both need to be independent
一定是的，我觉得两人都应该是独立的
Independent, that’s the word
独立，就是这个词
So, two independent people join forces
那么，两个独立的个体联合成一个团队
I think they should probably hold the same general beliefs
我认为他们起码应该拥有共同的基本信念
I’d even say those beliefs should be in line with
我甚至会说这些信念应该是
Actual existence, otherwise
和客观存在相吻合的，否则
Wouldn’t that make for unstable ground on which to even begin?
不是就连开始的根基都不稳固了吗？
Yes, that’s the foundation
是的，这是很重要的根基
I know everyone thinks that what they believe is true
我知道每个人都认为他们的信念是对的
So all I’m saying is
所以我想说的只是
If they’re right, then that’s good for a relationship
如果他们是对的，那么这就有利于爱情关系
And if they're wrong, then that might not be very helpful
如果他们错了，那么这可能就不是很有帮助了
That’s a nice way to put it
你这样说得很好
And the word "communication" is used a lot
而“沟通”这个词用得也很多
Which is important
这也很重要
And we always try to think of win/win solutions
而且我们总是努力找到双赢的办法来解决问题
Yes, I really like that
是的，我真的很喜欢这样
And if a couple starts off with the things we just talked about
如果一对夫妇在开始的时候就具备了我们刚刚谈到的几点
Then as issues come up
那么当问题出现的时候
They’re probably more able to resolve things constructively
他们可能就更有能力去建设性地解决问题
And win/win in the first place
一开始就能获得双赢
Without evasion
而不是去逃避
I totally agree
我完全同意
Yeah. Another thing is that
是啊。我在想的另一个问题是这样的：
Men and women are different
男人和女人是不同的
They’re of a different sex
他们是不同的性别
A man penetrates and a woman receives
一个男人去穿透，一个女人来接纳
Is there a possible connection there
这里面和性格有没有潜在的关联，
To men being more aggressive in ways
比如说男人更具进攻性
And women being more patient
而女人更有耐心
Since she has to wait for a man before
因为她得先等待一个男人的行动
Anything can really happen?
否则，任何事情都不可能发生？
I know this isn’t your specific problem
我知道这不是你所需要担心的问题
My sweet, beautiful girl
我美丽的甜心
But philosophically...
但是从哲学上来说...
Can’t man plus woman be a more
男人再加上女人不就能成为
Fully-effective human team?
更有效率的团队了吗？
Can’t they potentially have a better and happier life
他们不就有潜力拥有比自己单身一人
Than either could separately?
更好更幸福的生活了吗？
Of course, they compliment each other
当然可以啦，他们互相取长补短
They can benefit from the strength of the opposite gender
他们都可以受益于对方异性的长处
Nicely put. This is all interesting, don’t you think?
说得好。这一切都很有趣，不是吗？
I do, it’s worth talking about
是的，很值得探讨
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