编辑＆后期：陈俞欣
播音：陈俞欣 宋成皓
Hey friends,welcome back to English Ponorama,Long time no see!This is Vivian.It has been cold and wet these days in Fu Zhou, which makes me miss so much the warm weather and the bright sunshine in my dear hometown. Here，i want you to pay attention to one thing:the rainy day easily cause the food to go bad，so have the meal on time and let the fried food be the last choice.Anyway,new term，new life！
哈喽，过了一个寒假，啊咪又和大家见面啦，三月的福州天，又潮又湿，大家可一定要做好保暖工作，而且啊，潮湿的天气非常容易引起食物腐烂，搞不好就会拉肚子甚至食物中毒，所以大家一定按时吃饭少吃外卖，少吃油炸食品。不然就会像啊咪和啊咪的室友一样在一周内双双中标。
那么关于今天教育这个主题，首先想跟大家分享一段十分感人的文字，它节选于一本书，这本书是挪威作家哈芬丹•费昂写给他患有“非典型孤独症”的儿子，名为Dear Gabriel（《亲爱的加百利》 ）。由于这种特殊的病症，他的儿子有着异于常人的思维，无法像正常人一样与人交流沟通，对我们习以为常的事情常常感到疑惑难解。而这本书便记录了作者是如何用爱与温柔引导他的儿子走出人生的迷宫。Now，let‘s get it started！
You are no longer use your ordinary talking voice,you almost shout.I see in your eyes that you’re unable to make sense of this conversation,that you feel wronged and that it might be end very badly.You need help.but not humiliating【v.使蒙羞】 help,escort you out of the logical dead ends in which you fumble【v.摸索，笨拙地做】,confused to the point of hopelessness because you can’t find the way out. 你几乎是喊出来的，你不再用你平时说话的声音。我从你的眼里看出，你觉得我的话是不合理的，你感觉到哪里出错了，而且问题很严重。你需要有人帮你逃出这个让你感到迷茫，感到没有任何希望找到出口的逻辑死胡同，但并不是带有同情意味的帮助。You are capable of reconciling【v.使和好，协调】an obvious absurdity,a lie,quite simply,with your instinctive belief that whatever Dad says must be true.And you are absolutely unable to entertain the possibility that you yourself are mistaken,have been mistaken for as long as you can remember,that air can in fact weigh so much that is threatens to break the roof of an entire boathouse. 在你的潜意识里，爸爸总是对的，但你无法同谬误和谎言妥协，更无法接受你自己出错了，无法接受原来空气重到能够压塌屋顶。Paralyzed【v.使瘫痪】 by a limitless need to feel safe,for assurance that the world make sense,that everything has its ordained place in unbroken chains of cause and effect,that everything is as it usually is,you need a bridge,a hand to help you out of the labyrinth【n.迷宫，难解的事件】你那样渴望安全，那样坚信这个世界是具有合理性的，一切事物都必须存在于指定的位置，且每样事物的存在都是有因果关系的，所有事情都理所应当保持原样，正因为这种信念，你需要一座桥梁，需要一只手拉你走出这个迷宫。
这段话说的是当父亲看到屋顶向内塌陷，对儿子说：as though some heavy clouds weighed on it,（可能是云朵压塌了屋顶吧）这当然是一句可爱的玩笑话。但是呢，Grabiel对父亲所作的比喻却完全无法理解甚至感觉自己被全世界背叛了，因为在他的认知里，Air weighed nothing（空气是没有质量的）。如此思维不按常理出牌的孩子估计放在大部分家庭，都会被扇个耳光，然后大骂一句：Go and play your toy！Don‘t annoy me！但好在加百列的父亲十分耐心，那他是怎么说的呢？Let‘s go on！
—But perhaps,i suggest the beam in the roof is so old and rotten that it’ll break under its own weight.What do you think?Should you and i go on an expedition to find out?Bring a torch and some hot chocolate to drink?
但是我觉得嘛，有可能是因为屋顶的房梁太老了生锈了以至于屋顶由于自身重量塌陷。你觉得呢？不然你和我来个探险之旅一起来找找出原因？顺便再带个手电筒和热可可？
—It’s not called that!You said it wrong!
没有那种叫法！你说错了！
—Sorry,i didn’t mean expedition.I meant inspection.You’re quite right,we’re not going off exploring,there’s no treasure hidden in the boathouse,is there?What i mean was,let’s take a torch and something to drink and go on an inspection,make sure everything’s all right.Maybe we’ll have to put on a whole new roof.What do you think?
噢！对不起，我不应该说探险，应该说检查。你对极了，我们不是要去探险，因为没有什么宝藏藏在船屋里，对不对？好，那我们现在就带上手电筒和一些喝的然后就开始我们的检查以确保一切都完好。或者我们可能会换上一个全新的屋顶。你觉得如何呢？
其实对于像加百列这种特殊的孩子来说，很多的家人是采取放弃的心态的，但加百列父亲不是，他对加百列注入了足够的love，caring and patience，最重要的是，他愿意走进加百列的世界里，了解他独特的思考方式，理解他的不安全感，和他一起克服在探索世界过程中遇到的一个又一个的难题，也就是，他真正走入了孩子的内心。Poor Gabriel may never recover from his illness and make all his family exhausted,but for a father,love never faded.
Now let’s review some important vocabularies in this article.
1. ordain v.任命；授予（某人）圣职；注定
ordain是及物动词 ordain+sb 授予某人（某职）
eg.Fate has ordained that Jack will die young. 命运注定他会英年早逝。
2. reconcile v.使和好，使和解，调解
I could hardly reconcile the demands of my jobs and the desire to be a good mother.
我没办法做到即兼顾工作，又同时做好一个母亲。
3. Find the way out 找到出路；弄明白
eg.Take it easy，i’m sure you will find the way out.
别担心，我相信你能行的。
Speaking of Dear Gabriel,I wanna talk about two excellent movies that are both about education and parenting.That is《Einstein And Einstein》 and《Lady Bird》
You could explore the extinct difference between the eastern and the western style of educating.In them ,you could find that culture do have an impact on how the parents bring up the kids and how kids will act under that sort of education.
前段时间出现了两部大热的青春影片，其中一部是《lady bird》（《伯德小姐》），而另一部则是《狗十三》，译名为《Einstein And Einstein》。两部影片都是关于青春的洗礼，并且带有十分强烈的文化色彩。由此引发了网上对于家庭教育的热议。文化的不同导致教育方式的各异，没有孰是孰非，但同样都能引起我们的共鸣与深思。
In《Lady Bird》,the interesting part is that Lady Bird is not the heroine’s real name,Christine is.And Lady Bird is given to Christine by herself because she thinks her real name is old-fashioned.Apart from that,she doesn’t think she belong to where she has grown up and is in desperate for all the fancy things from western coast.It is exactly what motivates the conflict and misunderstanding between the girl and her mom.Her mom wants her to stay but all the girl wants is to leave.
影片《伯德小姐》中，最有意思的部分是伯德小姐是女主为自己取的名字，而并非她的真名，克里斯丁才是。表面上不过是一个女孩追求特立独行，追求时尚的表现，但其实暗示着克里斯丁并不想像自己的父母那样在萨克拉门托市拥有一份稳定的工作，每周做做祷告，安逸地度过此生，她更愿意到美国东海岸的新新世界闯荡。而这也成为了她和母亲之间关系破裂的导火索，尽管伯德小姐很爱自己的母亲，但她坚持自己的人生自己主宰。
From the first act that Li Wan’s father force Li Wan to join in the English learning group without considerating about her feelings in《Einstein And Einstein》,it is not difficult to find that both Li Wan and lady bird are that kind of kids who struggles for making choices between their real thoughts and the parents’ expectation to them everyday.We can’t deny that most parents want to make the best decision they think for their children and truths have proven that their decision seldom goes wrong.But for children,doing the work of making choices by themselves is also an important skill they should be equipped with. It’s about their life;whatever they choose,they have to bear what it takes. For parents,you can’t be in company of your kids forever,then sometimes you should just let it go.
李玩和伯德小姐都是那种在自己的想法和家人的期待之间徘徊不定的孩子，他们清楚自己所想要的，却不得不顾及家人对自己强烈的“爱”。不同的是，李玩渐渐妥协，长成了大人们口中的“懂事的孩子”，而伯德小姐虽然褪去淘气的性格，改回名字，但在自己人生方向的决定上始终立场坚定，最后如愿以偿考取了纽约的一所学校。
不可否认的是家长总希望为孩子做出最正确的决定以便他们少走弯路，而事实也证明他们的建议很少出错。但从孩子的角度来说，做决定是每个人都必须具备的一项十分重要的能力，只有将人生路口的抉择留给他们细细斟酌，他们才能真正长大成人。这是他们的人生，无论选择正确与否，他们都必须承担。而对于父母来说，既然不能永远陪伴于孩子左右，有时就应学会放手。
最后，我希望每个家长都能这样对自己的孩子说：
“I want you to be the very best version of yourself that you can be”(来自《Lady Bird》)
我希望你能成为自己最好的版本。
Ok that is all today.Leave us message,tell me what you feel,tell me what you think,and what you like and we will talk about it next time.This is Vivian,this is James,see you next time,bye~
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