7 Ways Childhood Trauma Follow You Into Adulthood
童年创伤伴随你成年的7种方式
Trauma occursin many forms ranging from verbal to physical and our sexual. Whetheryou've personally experienced abuse or have witnessed it, we want you toknow that it's not your fault nor are you alone. Not only is it hard totalk about but it follows you even after it's over. We hope wherever youare today that you're in a safer place. Our hearts go out to anyone who'sbeen a victim of childhood abuse. In our description box below, we'veincluded a few hotlines in case you need to contact someone for help. Asalways you can also reach out in the comment box. Here are 7 wayschildhood trauma follows you into adulthood.
创伤以多种形式发生，从语言、身体、性。不管你是亲身经历，还是亲眼目睹过虐待，我们都想让你知道这不是你的错，你不是一个人在承受。这不仅难以启齿,但即使一切都结束了，它还会跟着你。我们希望无论你今天在哪里，你都在一个更安全的地方。我们的心与任何童年受虐待的人同在。在下面的描述中，我们提供了热线电话，以备你需要联系他人时，寻求帮助。和往常一样，你也可以在评论区中找到。以下是童年创伤伴随你成年的7种方式。
1. You can't seemto remember much of your younger years at all.
Do your highschool years feel like a blur? You might find yourself drawing a blankwhen someone brings up a childhood memory. And you can't recall the sameone. People with childhood trauma mayexperience "Flashbulb" memories in which they remembervivid moments, but not the full event. When you look back on the past, it'smade up of more black holes than fully written chapters. You might evenfeel like someone or something has stolen your childhood, depending on theseverity of the events.
1. 你似乎一点也不记得年轻时的事了。
你的高中生活是模糊的吗?当有人提起童年时，你可能会发现自己脑海中一片空白。你不能回忆起同一件事。患有童年创伤的人可能会经历“闪光灯”记忆，在这种记忆中，他们记住的是生动的时刻，而不是完整的事件。当你回忆过去，它由更多的黑洞组成，而不是完整的章节。你甚至可能觉得有人或什么东西偷走了你的童年，这取决于事情的严重程度。
2. You findyourself in toxic relationships.
If you've everwatched or read the "Perks of Being a Wallflower", you'd befamiliar with the quote "We accept the love. We think wedeserve". When you grow up in a household devoid of love and emotional support, healthy relationshipsare a foreign concept to you. In fact, many people who face childhoodtrauma often adopt the fearful avoidant attachment style, where they want emotionally close relationships butfind it hard to trust or depend on others completely. Consequently,without knowing it, you might seek destructive relationships, mistakingthe mistreatment and uncertainty for excitement.
2. 你发现自己处于有害的关系中。
如果你看过或读过《壁花少年》，你就会熟悉这句话:“我们接受这份爱。我们认为这是我们应得的。”当你在一个缺乏爱和情感支持的家庭中长大时，健康的人际关系对你来说是一个陌生的概念。事实上，许多面临童年创伤的人，往往采用恐惧回避型依恋，他们想要建立情感上的亲密联系，但却发现很难完全信任或依赖他人。因此，在不知情的情况下，你可能会寻求破坏性的关系，把这种虐待和不确定性误认为是兴奋。
3. Or you feellike you don't deserve love at all.
People whoexperienced abuse in their childhoods might avoid romantic relationshipsaltogether, believing they can't be loved by others. This is known asthe anxious preoccupied attachment where the individual wants to establish emotional intimacy withothers, but often fears rejection. As a result, vulnerability isusually avoided when they've only been hurt by people they once trusted. Thiskind of trauma doesn't just ache, it ruins you.
3. 或者你觉得自己根本不值得被爱。
童年经历过虐待的人可能会完全避免恋爱关系，因为他们认为自己不会被别人爱。这被称为焦虑的专注依恋，在这种依恋中，个体想与他人建立情感上的亲密关系，但往往害怕被拒绝。结果当被他们曾所信任的人伤害时，他们会避开自己脆弱的一面。这种创伤不仅会让你感到痛苦，还会毁了你。
4. You develop passive-aggressiveness.
Did you growup in a household with anger all the time? It can be so scarring that youmight even grow fearful of this emotion. You learned at a young age thatnone of your emotional needs were important. So you've only resorted to burying or suppressing them. Asyou reach adulthood, you'll continue to exercise passive aggressivebehavior because straightforward communication was avoided when you were achild.
4. 你有被动攻击的性格。
你是在一个充满愤怒的家庭中长大的吗?它是如此可怕，你甚至可能会对这种情绪产生恐惧。你在小时候就知道，你的情感需求并不重要。所以你只能把心事埋在心里，或压抑它们。当你成年以后，你会继续表现出消极的攻击性行为，因为当你还是个孩子的时候，你就会自然地避免直接地与别人交流。
5. Negativeself-talk is amplified. Childhoodtrauma gets into victim’s heads and makes them believe they won't ever begood enough. It's not something they can just snap out of or fix withpositivity. It's scary and real how convincing their parents mighthave been when their words and actions cut them deep.
5. 消极的自言自语会被放大。
童年的创伤进入受害者的脑海，让他们相信自己永远都不够好。这不是他们可以摆脱，或用积极的态度能够解决的事情。当父母用言语和行动深深伤害他们的时候，这些父母的说服力让人感到可怕又真实。
6. You ride an emotional roller coaster.
You might either feel too much or not enoughat all. Trauma can cause a disruption in your emotional well-being. Signsinclude trouble making decisions, impulsive behavior, and random outbursts of anger or frustration.
6. 你坐上了情感的过山车。
你要么会感到太过压抑或者是情绪上的空洞。创伤可以导致幸福感的中断。这些迹象包括决策困难，冲动行为，以及随机爆发的愤怒或沮丧。
7. You don'tknow who you are.
Identity is difficult but itseems more impossible to grasp or pin down when you face childhood trauma. It'sslippery like a fish and the more you try to see yourself, the less youbegin to recognize who you thought you were.
7. 你不知道你是谁。
自我认同很难，但是当你面对自己的童年创伤时，似乎更加不可能理解，或弄清楚自己是谁。它就像鱼一样滑，你越想看清自己，就越不容易看清自己是谁。
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