Someone may give you a bow of rice but no one can eat for you

Someone may give you a bow of rice, but no one can eat for you

【Xian'er says so: “I’m really hurt!”】

Xian'er said to Shifu: “Shifu, you confiscated my cell phone.

This really hurt my feelings.

And when you travel abroad, you always take Xian Yi, not me.

That hurts too. Furthermore, you often criticize and disprove me.

I’m really hurt!  Besides, you haven’t given me any attention for nearly a year........."
Shifu: " Anything else?"
Xian'er: “That’s it for now.”
Shifu:"  What is it that you want?”
Xian'er: " I am begging for some approval and attention, please! Just a little bit……"
Shifu: " Go away now. Stop wandering around here and find somewhere to be. "
Xian'er did what Shifu has asked him to do. 

Below are quoted from my Shifu’s new book, Say Good Things—Master Xuecheng’s insight on the path to speaking like a Buddha. 
It is only through endurance of circumstances that the mind obtains tenacity and freedom.
What others can tell you will only be a principle.  
As if someone may give you a bow of rice, but no one can eat for you.
Only when you apply such principle in various circumstances, you understand it.  
The more you practice, the better off you are.

别人能给你一碗饭，却永远无法替你吃饱

【 贤二如是说：我很受伤 】

贤二对师父说：“师父，你没收了我的手机，
其实我的内心很受伤，
还有，你总是带贤一出国，不带我，
我也很受伤，
还有，你老是批评我，否定我，
让我也很受伤，
还有，这一年来，
你都没有给过我一个好脸色了.....”
师父说：“还有什么？”
贤二说：“暂时先这么多。”
师父说：“你想干什么？”
贤二说：“求肯定，求关怀......一下下......”
师父说：“走开啦，别在我面前晃来晃去，
哪凉快哪呆着去。”
贤二依教奉行。

以下来自我师父的《好好说话》
心灵的坚韧与自在，
只能通过境界来磨练，
他人能告诉你的，
永远只是一个道理，
就好比别人能给你一碗饭，
却永远无法替你吃饱一样。
听懂的道理，
就是在一个又一个境界中去运用的，
用得熟了，便成长了。