播音&编辑：小顾
各位晚上好，这里是福说英语的深夜电台，我是小顾。Good evening everyone, welcome to English Panaroma, I'm Rebecca.这一期我们的主题是：抱抱。
你有多久没有和别人拥抱了呢？
Google一下“人每天需要多少个抱抱”这个问题，跳出来的答案是8个。
The results have proved countless times that our brains secrete oxytocin when embrace or touch close people. "Oxytocin"—催产素，他也被称为掌管“爱的能力”的荷尔蒙。At the same time, when embracing, our serotonin secretion levels increase, while the effect of cortisol slows down.All of this helps to stabilize our blood pressure and suppress our anxiety, thereby lowering our heart rate and making our mood more stable.
而排除这些科学因素，人们喜欢拥抱的原因在哪？
或许因为拥抱是人类与生俱来的社交技能。
给大家介绍一个词语，叫“Cuffing season”，它的意思是：抱抱季、取暖式恋爱季节，而"Cuffing season"也是2017年的柯林斯年度词汇，单身的人们会想要找个伴来陪着，基于这样的出发点而跟一个人走入恋情，It means that every year since the beginning of winter, the weather becomes cold, single people will want to find a partner to accompany, based on this starting point, and with a person into a relationship.每当天气逐渐变冷，单身的朋友往往会想找个伴来陪着，而基于这样的出发点跟一个人开始恋情，也往往意味着春暖花开之后，他们大概率会分手进入“uncuffing season”。
关于cuffing和uncuffing的一个解释是，冬季日照少，导致人们血清素分泌过少，让人更容易不快乐，And with the approaching of various large festivals at the end of the year, social pressure and anxiety is also common, so people urgently need a person to accompany and snuggle warm.各种大型节日的邻近，萦绕在身边的社会压力、焦虑，此时的人们迫切需要一个人来陪伴和依偎取暖。
而等到阳光充足的季节，No matter how far couples go, people together for "cuffing season" purposes no longer need to rely on others for security, which is more prone to uncuffing.
由cuffing而起，I always see embrace as an intimacy that is hard to simply define.
在一段恋爱关系里，它是牵手和亲吻中间的过渡，是踏实的传递，是“你还有我”的后盾。它没有牵手那么小心翼翼，像树枝抽出新芽；也没有亲吻那么恣肆张扬，像夏日大雨倾盆。Embrace is not only in the relationship of lovers, but also in the kind of trust between relatives, the kind of solidarity in times between friends,（拥抱并不止于恋爱关系，更多地体现在亲人间的那种信赖，好友间的那种同舟共济）。还适用于在我们人类心碎的时候，给四处漏风的情绪添一块针脚细密的补丁。
朋友分享说，大一的时候她喜欢上了一个男生。“十二月的深夜跟他一起回学校，我脑子里排满了法国爱情片的剧情，双手抱臂看着他说，没想到今天这么冷。他点点头，说，对啊，那我们走快一点。 当时那种清冽的、不动声色的心碎，我到现在还记得。”你看啊，天都这么黑了，这个滴水成冰的季节里刮起的风都那么萧瑟，在人们空空如也的心和胃中都荡起回声。那你为什么不主动抱抱我呢？
In fact, for human beings, in addition to the physiological level, embrace is also of important social significance: although human embrace and physical touch are natural needs, they also imply the restriction of interpersonal communication and social and cultural boundaries.拥抱隐含的更加重要的社会意义体现在：人际交往的制约和社会文化的边界问题。
Interpersonal culture and social culture determine how much and attitude you are willing to be touched.在当代文明中，人们对于被触碰的态度更为谨慎，所以才会有对“绅士手”和“咸猪手”的大范围讨论。 At the same time, the need for caress and embrace has not diminished, but the attitude towards being touched seems stricter.
在互联网时代，人们相互触摸的机会也在减少，近两年，已经有一些学者开始提出当代人正在遭遇“触摸剥夺” ，也就是（touch-deprived／touch-free）的担忧。Technological progress has liberated people's senses and feelings. After accustomed to a full set of smart home remote control instructions, facial unlock or online communication, humans who communicate across the screen seem to have adapted to fewer and fewer face-to-face contact opportunities,我们似乎有把触摸直接“赛博化”的趋势：一个个拥抱的意愿，幻化成了手机屏幕里的拥抱emoji和评论区的“抱抱你”。
但我们依然需要真正的拥抱，like we need sunlight and air.虽然说病毒和技术带来的影响足以改变人类历史，人们拥抱和触摸的需求或许正在以某种方式被转嫁和消解掉，但人类的触觉也远远不到退化或者完全被虚拟现实技术模拟取代的地步，What Margaret Atwood wrote in her novel "The Blind Assassin" is, " Touch before watching, before words.It is the original language, and the last language, and is always true.”——我们是而且将一直是，忠实的触摸动物。
There was a joke on the Internet that people are really strange that adults in their twenties like to call themselves "baby", but primary school students know to dominate in class, saying they are everyone's eldest brother.之前网上说，现在的人真是奇怪，二十多岁了喜欢说自己还是个宝宝，可是小学生都知道制霸一方，让所有人喊他大哥。
以前只是对这句话一笑置之，但后来想想，我们用低龄化的称谓让自己听起来柔软一点，还真不是装疯卖傻。It is we have seen too many unbearable things in the world, too many real compromises, weakness and embarrassment, we have been an adult, so we must be a strong warrior for a long time, but our hearts, always want to be protected, to be loved.
大多数人可能并没有住进城堡的公主命，但还是想至少有一个人，愿意用他宽厚的臂膀揽住我，讲些不考虑道理的话，说我懂我懂，他们都错了，他们都没你好。
People like to hug , probably because the society is becoming increasingly demanding on everyone, and everyone must fight and face it alone.
但人们也都一样，都渴望被在乎的人抱抱，想感受到自己有真实地被这个无情的世界网开一面，也正在被某个认为你比真理更加重要的傻瓜爱着。
所以，当我心生退意，暂时垂头丧气的时候，你只要站成那堵挡风的围墙就好，不用给我灌输“万事开头难”的大道理，也不用给我讲一些乱七八糟的成功心经，这些都不能治好我。我以后还会继续奔赴那片满是硝烟的战场，但是现在我不，现在我只想在你怀里，好好地丧气一会儿。
Hello欢迎大家来到本次的福说驿站，我是小顾。今天给大家介绍的第一个单词是intimate，它是文中intimacy的形容词形式，译为“亲密的”，and, whether or not to have a healthy and intimate relationship today, has become a growing topic of social significance.在当今，是否拥有一段健康的亲密关系，成为了一个越来越被重视的社会性话题。
第二个单词是compromise，译为“妥协、折中”，Do not easily compromise in the face of injustice，面对不公时，一定不要轻易做出妥协。
那今天的福说到这里就结束啦，希望每一位朋友都可以拥有一个充满爱意的抱抱，我们下期再见，各位晚安～
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