Understanding how to listen is more valuable than how to talk

Understanding how to listen is more valuable than how to talk
【Xian'er says so: Don’t be like me.】

Xian’er got severe hemorrhoids
Xianyi went to visit him and brought him some special medicine.

He told Xian’er how to use the medicine because it was made using his family’s recipe .
Xian’er took a look at the medicine Xianyi brought him and thought to himself, what special medicine could he have.

So he chatted with Xianyi for a bit and saw him off.
Later, Xian’er forgot about the medicine Xianyi brought, and the hemorrhoids got worse.

He couldn’t stand, couldn’t sit and couldn’t lay on his back. He could only lay on his stomach.
Actually, Xianyi had the right medicine for his hemorrhoids.

Why is it that Xian’er did not use it?

Below are quoted from my Shifu’s new book, Say Good Things—Master Xuecheng’s insight on the path to speaking like a Buddha. 
We don’t believe what others say may benefit us.
We don’t respect others, are critical of others’ mistakes, and look down upon others.

We are so self-conceited and arrogant, all of which is due to our reliance on our own knowledge and experience.

In other words, this is the attachment to the self and to “what is mine”.

会听比会说更有价值
贤二如是说：不要像我这样想
贤二犯了严重的痔疮。
贤一去看望，顺便带了一些特效的好药。
当面嘱咐了这些药的使用方法。
这些药是贤一祖传的秘方。专门治疗痔疮。
贤二看见贤一带来的药，心想，
就你，能有什么好药。跟贤一敷衍了几句，
就送走了贤一。
后来，贤二就忘记了贤一送来的药，
痔疮越犯越严重，
不能站，也不能坐，不能躺，只能趴着。
其实，贤一真的有治痔疮的好药，
那为什么贤二没有受益呢？

以下来自我师父的《好好说话》
内心不认可对方的话会有益于自己,
不尊重对方，挑剔对方的过失，
在心中贬抑对方,
过于自负，自以为是，贡高我慢等。
如此种种，
归根结底都是执着于自己的认识、经验等，
也就是对“我”和“我所”的执着。