英语美文：You don't have to apologize for those things

Having the ability to apologize is a positive trait and often a necessary part of life. It reflects strong interpersonal skills and it is one of the essential parts of emotional intelligence. When you apologize, it releases you from that guilty feeling of having wronged someone, and it restores the sense of trust between you and the other person. 

但是，有时我们道歉仅仅是因为我们太过在乎他人的想法，结果就是，人们会将我们这种过度的歉意视为软弱或自卑，甚至无能。

But sometimes we apologize only because we care too much about what others think. As a result, people may view these excessive apologies as weakness or a lack of confidence, or even a lack of competence.
拥有道歉的能力是一种积极向上的品质，它对于我们的人生而言是必要的。它体现了出色的人际交往技巧，它是情商最重要的组成部分。当你道歉时，你摆脱了因错怪他人而产生的愧疚感，并且你的道歉重建了你和对方之间的信任。

Now, this isn't to knock the value of admitting to our mistakes and making amends if we are wrong - of course you should indeed apologize when necessary, but there is no need to say sorry when there is no reason to do so. Here are 15 things you don't have to apologize for!
好吧，这并不是说，当我们犯错时，我们不应该承认、不应该做出弥补。诚然，有必要的话，你确实需要道歉。但你没必要无缘无故道歉。以下是十五件你不必为其道歉的事情。

Number 1 - Your Appearance
When you apologize for things like looking tired or having a bad hair day, it comes off as a lack of self-compassion. You are who you are. Why would an apology be necessary for what you look like? Assuming that you don't show up at the office in sweatpants and a t-shirt, you really don't need to apologize for how you look.
第一，你的外表。当你为自己看起来过于疲惫，或者为自己度过了很糟糕的一天而道歉时，这就是缺乏自我共情的表现。你就是你。为什么要为你自己看起来如何而道歉？只要你没有穿运动裤和T恤出现在办公室里，你就真的没有必要为自己的外表而道歉。
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