Solve problems early_Susan三叶草_免费在线阅读收听下载

I'm not advocating throwing kids straight into the deep end to see whether they can swim.Instead,it's a case of starting early to find simple problems for them to solve on their own,problems that can help them build their processes--and a healthy self-esteem.As I look back on my own life,I recognize that some of the greatest gifts I received from my parents stemmed not from what they did for me-but rather from what they didn't do for me.One such example: my mother never mended my clothes.I remember going to her when I was in the early grades of elementary school,with holes in both socks of m y favorite pair. M y mom had just had her sixth child and was deeply involved in our church activities.She was very,very busy.Our family had no extra money anywhere,so buying new socks was just out of the question.So she told me to go string thread through a needle,and to come back when I had done it.That accomplished-it took me about ten minutes,whereas I'm sure she could have done it in ten seconds- she took one of the socks and showed me how to run the needle in and out around the periphery of the hole,rather than back and forth across the hole,and then simply to draw the hole closed.This took her about thirty seconds.Finally,she showed me how to cut and knot the thread.She then handed me the second sock,and went on her way.
A year or so later— I probably was in third grade—I fell down on the playground at school and ripped my Levi's.This was serious, because I had the standard family ration of two pairs of school trousers. So I took them to my mom and asked if she could repair them.She showed me how to set up and operate her sewing machine, including switching it to a zigzag stitch; gave me an idea or two about how she might try to repair it if it were she who was going to do the repair,and then went on her way.I sat there clueless at first,but eventually figured it out.
我并不主张把孩子直接扔进深水区，看看他们是否会游泳。相反，应该尽早让他们自己解决简单的问题，这些可以帮助他们建立自己解决问题的过程以及健康的自尊。当我回顾我自己的生活时，我意识到我从父母那里得到的最好的礼物不是源于他们为我做的事情，而是源于他们没有为我做的事情。例如:我的母亲从来不帮我补衣服。我记得在小学低年级的时候，我最喜欢的袜子破了。我妈妈刚生了第六个孩子，她喜欢参加教会活动，所以非常非常忙。我们家又没有多余的钱，所以买新袜子是不可能的。她叫我去穿针引线，穿好了就回来。完成了——但是花了我大约10分钟，而我确信她可以在10秒钟内完成——她拿起一只袜子，教我如何在洞的周围进进出出，而不是来回穿过洞，然后简单地将洞缝合。这花了她大约三十秒钟。最后，她教我如何剪线和打结。最后她递给我第二只袜子，然后就走了。
大约一年后——我大概上三年级——我在学校的操场上摔倒了，撕破了我的李维斯牛仔裤。这很严重，因为我家给我的配给标准就是两条学校的裤子。所以我只能拿给我妈妈，问她是否能帮我补。她教了我了如何安装和操作缝纫机，包括将它切换到锯齿形线迹；给我示范，看她如何补，然后就走了。一开始我坐在那里毫无头绪，但最终想通了补好了。

Solve problems early

Solve problems early

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