And unhealthy beliefs about the world come about because deep down, we want the world to be fair. We want to think that if we put in enough good deeds, enough good things will happen to us. Or if we tough it out through enough bad times, we'll get some sort of reward. But ultimately you have to accept that life isn't fair. And that can be liberating. Yeah, it means you won't necessarily be rewarded for your goodness, but it also means no matter how much you've suffered, you're not doomed to keep suffering. The world doesn't work that way. Your world is what you make it. But of course before you can change your world, you have to believe that you can change it.
之所以会对世界产生不健康的认知，是因为在内心深处，我们希望世界是公平的。我们做了足够多的善事，就会想应当得到足够多的回报，或者我们熬过了足够多的困难时期，我们会得到某种奖励。但最终你必须接受生活是不公平的。这是一种解脱，是的，这意味着你不一定会因为你的善良，而得到回报，这也意味着无论你遭受了多少痛苦，都不能代表你还会继续受苦。世界不是这样运作的，你的世界是由你创造的，当然，你可以改变你的世界之前，你必须相信你可以改变它。
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主题：13 things mentally strong people don't do
演讲者：Amy Morin
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