The way of speaking

The way of speaking is to speak with loving compassion.
【Xian'er says so: The way of speaking.】
Wang Xiaowu recently got into a relationship.

He has been very excited and even came to Xian’er for an analysis of his personalities.
Xian’er shouted thousands of times silently, Wang Xiaowu, trouble is your name!

Do you know how to write “tragedy”?

Someone like you is due to experience tragedy……
These words almost come out of Xian’er’s month, but he managed to put a stop to it and said, Xiaowu, you have many good traits such as honest, straightforward, and brave.

However, there is still room for improvement when it comes the way you carry yourself.

If you manage to do better, you will be just be amazing…
Wang Xiaowu was touched and excited with tears in his eyes and said: Xian’er, I didn’t expect this from you. It looks like I do have a bright future and I feel so happy.
Xian’er tucked his sorrow within.

It seems that what he did was worth it.

Below are quoted from my Shifu’s new book, Say Good Things—Master Xuecheng’s insight on the path to speaking like a Buddha. 
The Buddha says that kindness can bring happiness.
Kindness, those who are kind think about love.

Therefore, they bring happiness to others.
Bodhisattvas love all sentient beings and pray for their happiness.

They benefit others according to what others wish for.
The way to get along with others is to keep loving compassion in mind to keep others and self happy.

The way to speak is rather simple which is to first hold a loving compassionate mind that makes others happy.

说话之道，就是抱着一颗慈悲心说话
贤二如是说：说话之道
王小五最近谈恋爱了，情绪比较亢奋，
也没什么眼力劲了，竟然找贤二，
想让贤二帮着分析分析自己的性格。
贤二内心里有一万个声音在呐喊：
王小五，像你这样的人，
作死这个词就是为你量身定做的，
惨这个字你会写吗，
像你这种性格的人，
这样为人处世的人会很惨很惨......
这些话差一点就脱口而出，但是，
贤二还是生生地憋住了，换了个说法：
王小五你有很多优点，
率真，直心，仗义，
只是有的时候说话做事的分寸还有提升的空间，
这方面做的再好一些，你就不得了啦......
王小五面色红润，眼泛泪光，激动地说：
贤二，想不到你居然这样评价我，
看来我真的前途很光明，人生好幸福......
贤二默默流了一肚子眼泪。
但还是觉得比较值。

以下来自我师父的《好好说话》
佛讲，慈能予乐。
慈，慈者爱念，
即能给予众生快乐之心，
菩萨爱念一切众生，常求乐事，
随彼所求而利益对方。
与人相处，
如果保持一个“慈”的原则，
就能让别人和自己快乐。
说话之道很简单，
首先从抱着一颗让别人快乐的慈心说话开始。