Taking responsibility yourself

2022-03-01 13:06:2401:49 3

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But think about what course you have just given your child with the decision to bail him out. You've given him the Cliffs Notes course; you've taken him through the experience of learning how to take shortcuts.He'll think,My parents will be there to solve hard problems for me. I won't have to figure it out on my own. Good grades are what matters,much more than doing the work.
What do you think will happen next time your child is late on a project? He'll announce at the dinner table that he needs help. And you will find yourself, again, finishing it up for him at three a.m.
The braver decision for parents may be to give that child a more difficult, but also more valuable,course in life.Allow the child to see the consequences of neglecting an important assignment. Either he will have to stay up late on his own to pull it off, or he will see what happens when he fails to complete it. And yes, that child might get a bad grade. That might be even more painful for the parent to witness than the child.But that child will likely not feel good about what he allowed to happen, which is the first lesson in the course on taking responsibility for yourself.
当你决定帮孩子摆脱困境时，你想想自己给孩子上了一堂怎样的课？你给他上了一节很危险的课。你让他学会如何走捷径。他会想，我的父母会为我解决难题。我不用自己想办法。我成绩好比做作业更重要。
下次孩子又迟迟不完成作业，他会怎样？他会在餐桌上宣布他需要帮助。你会发现自己又一次在凌晨三点为他完成功课。
对父母来说，更勇敢的决定是给孩子一个更困难，但也更有价值的人生历程。让孩子看到忽视重要任务的后果。要么他不得不熬夜完成，要么让他看到不完成的后果。是的，孩子可能得一个糟糕的分数。这对父母来说可能比孩子更痛苦。孩子可能对这样的事情感觉不好，但这是“为自己负责”课程的第一课。

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