Need to be challenged

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You have your children's best interests at heart when you provide them with resources.It's what most parents think they're supposed to do— provide for their child. You can compare with your neighbors and friends how many activities your child is involved in,what instruments he is learning, what sports she is playing. It's easy to measure and it makes you feel good. But too much of this loving gesture can actually undermine their becoming the adults you want them to be.
Children need to do more than learn new skills.The theory of capabilities suggests they need to be challenged. They need to solve hard problems. They need to develop values. When you find yourself providing more and more experiences that are not giving children an opportunity to be deeply engaged, you are not equipping them with the processes they need to succeed in the future. And if you find yourself handing your children over to other people to give them all these experiences---outsourcing--you are, in fact, losing valuable opportunities to help nurture and develop them into the kind of adults you respect and admire.Children will learn when they're ready to learn, not when you're ready to teach them; if you are not with them as they encounter challenges in their lives, then you are missing important opportunities to shape their priorities— and their lives.
当你为孩子提供资源时，你会把他们的最大利益放在心上。这是大多数父母认为他们应该做的——给孩子提供各种活动后，你就能和你的邻居你的朋友比较了，孩子参加了多少活动，他在学什么乐器，她在练那项运动。这很容易衡量，而且让你感觉很好。但是过多的这种爱的姿态实际上会破坏孩子成为你想要他长大成人的样子。
孩子们需要做的不仅仅是学习新技能。能力理论表明他们需要接受挑战。他们需要解决难题。他们需要发展价值观。当你发现自己提供了越来越多的体验，却没有给孩子一个深入参与的机会时，你就没有为他们提供未来成功所需的过程。如果你发现你自己把你的孩子交给其他人来给他们所有这些经历-也就是外包-事实上，你正在失去帮助培养和发展他们成为你尊重和钦佩的成年人的宝贵机会。孩子们会在他们准备好学习的时候学习，而不是在你准备好教他们的时候；如果当他们在生活中遇到挑战时，你没有和他们在一起，那么你就错过了塑造他们优先观以及他们的生活的重要机会。

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