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That's not to say that any of this is easy.First,you come into a family with a culture from the family in which you grew up. There's a good chance your spouse's family culture will have been fundamentally different from yours. Just getting the two of you to agree on anything is a miracle.Then add kids to the equation—they're born with their own attitudes and wiring.Yes,it's going to be difficult,but that's exactly why it's so important to understand what type of culture you want and to proactively pursue it.
My wife,Christine, and I started, when we were newly engaged, with an end goal—a specific family culture—in mind. We didn't think about it in terms of culture, but that's what we were doing. We decided in a deliberate fashion that we wanted our children to love each other and to support each other. We decided we wanted our children to have an instinct to obey God. We decided we wanted them to be kind. And,finally, we decided that we wanted them to love work.
The culture we picked is the right culture for our family, but every family should choose a culture that's right for them.What is important is to actively choose what matters to you, and then engineer the culture to reinforce those elements, as Schein's theory shows.It entails choosing what activities we pursue,and what outcomes we need to achieve,so that as a family,when we have to perform those activities again,we all think:“This is how we do it.”
并不是说这很容易。首先，你带着原生家庭的文化。很有可能你配偶的家庭文化与你的根本不同。让你们两个在任何事情上达成一致都是一个奇迹。然后把孩子也算上——他们生来就有自己的态度和性格。是的，这很难，但重要性就在这，理解你想要的文化类型并且积极追求它。
我们刚订婚时，我和我的妻子克里斯汀就有一个最终目标——一种特定的家庭文化。我们没有从文化的角度考虑这个问题，但这是我们正在做的。我们深思熟虑最后决定，我们希望我们的孩子彼此相爱，互相支持。我们决定让我们的孩子有服从上帝的本能。我们决定希望他们善良。最后，我们决定让他们热爱工作。
我们选择的文化是适合我们家庭的，但每个家庭都应该选择适合自己的文化。正如沙因的理论所示，重要的是积极选择对你重要的东西，然后设计文化来强化这些元素。选择我们追求的活动，以及我们需要实现的结果，因此作为一个家庭，当我们不得不再次执行这些活动时，我们都认为:“我们就是这样做到的。”

A specific family culture

A specific family culture

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