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It is for this reason that as I look back at my life,I'm actually very glad we didn't have enough money to buy a perfectly finished house when our children were young. We stretched so far to buy that first wreck of a house that we later couldn't afford to pay tradesmen to fix it up for us.Everything that needed to be fixed had to be filed by us and by the kids.Now, most people would think of this as a complete chore.
But inadvertently, we had moved our family into an environment rich in opportunities for us to work together.As tempting as it might otherwise have been,we couldn't outsource it- we simply could not afford to.This meant there wasn't a wall or a ceiling torn down,built up,plastered,or painted without the kids helping us to do it. We applied the same principles as with mowing the lawn— making it fun, and always thanking them. But in this instance,there was additional positive reinforcement: every time the kids walked into any room in the house,they'd see the wall and say:“I painted that wall.”Or“I sanded it.”Not only would they re- member the fun we had in doing it together,but they felt the pride from seeing what they'd achieved. They learned to love work.
In solving the problems of fixing up our house together, we were helping to build the Christensen family culture. Doing things together, over and over, led to a mutual understanding of what things we prioritize,how we solve problems, and what really matters.
正是因为这个原因，当回顾我的生活时，我真的很高兴当孩子还小的时候，我们没有足够的钱买一个完美的房子。我们花了很大力气才买下了一栋残骸一样的房子，没钱请工匠为我们装修。所有的装修都必须由我们和孩子们来做。现在，大多数人会认为这全是做家务。
但我们不经意间，把家搬进了一个充满合作机会的环境中。尽管外包很诱人，但我们不能外包——因为我们根本负担不起。这意味着没有孩子们的帮助，一面墙或一个天花板都没法被拆除、建好、抹灰或粉刷。我们用了和修剪草坪一样的原则——让装修变得有趣，并总感谢孩子们。这种情况，有额外的积极强化的作用:每次孩子们走进任何一个房间，看到墙都说:“我粉刷了那面墙。”或者“我用砂纸打磨过了”他们不仅记得我们一起做这件事的乐趣，而且会因为看到他们所取得的成就而感到自豪。他们学会了热爱工作。
在一起解决装修房子的问题时，我们建立了克里斯滕森家庭文化。一遍又一遍的一起做事，让我们相互理解优先考虑的事情，如何解决问题，以及什么是真正重要的。

Rich in opportunities

Rich in opportunities

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