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Make no mistake: a culture happens, whether you want it to or not.The only question is how hard you are going to try to influence it. Forming a culture is not an instant loop; it's not something you can decide on,communicate, and then expect it to suddenly work on its own.You need to be sure that when you ask your children to do something,or tell your spouse you're going to do something,you hold to that and follow through. It sounds obvious; most of us want to try to be consistent. But in the pressures of day-to-day living, that can be tough.There will be many days when enforcing the rules is harder on a parent than it is on a child. With good intentions, many exhausted parents find it too difficult to stay consistent with their rules early on- and inadvertently,they allow a culture of laziness or defiance to creep into their family.
Children might feel “success” in the short term by getting what they want in beating up a sibling,or talking back to a parent who finally relents to an unreasonable demand.Parents who let such behavior slide are essentially building a family culture—teaching their child that this is the way the world works,and that they can achieve their goals the same way each time.
毫无疑问:不管你愿不愿意，文化总会形成。唯一的问题是，你打算怎样努力去影响它。形成文化不是瞬间完成；不是你可以决定，沟通，然后指望它自己形成。当你要求你的孩子做事，或者告诉你的配偶你将要做某事时，你要坚持并坚持到底。很明显：大多数人都想坚持。但在生活压力下，我们很难做到。很多时候，父母比孩子更难执行这些规则。怀着良好的意愿，但许多疲惫不堪的父母发现很难保持与他们早前的规则一致，并且无意中，让一种懒惰或蔑视的文化蔓延整个家庭。
孩子们可能会在短期内感到“成功”,因为他们在殴打兄弟姐妹，或者与最终对不合理要求让步的父母顶嘴中得到了想要的东西。放任这种行为的父母本质上是在建立一种家庭文化——教育他们的孩子这是世界运转的方式，他们每次都能以同样的方式实现他们的目标。

Make no mistake

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